Communicate. Like any other type of relationship, communication is key. Sit down with your partner and talk about what you want, what you are curious about and most important is your boundaries.

Talk dirty! If you aren't quite ready to jump in the deep end don't worry. Try dirty talking about your fantasies. You may even get carried away and discover more than you thought.

Go shopping. There are plenty of online sex shops, or if you're brave enough go to town on it. Literally. Start browsing together and buy a few things that tingle your excitement.

When you're both ready with toys and props at hand, remember to take things slow. Light spanking, gentle playing, whatever it may be remember baby steps together.

Research. If you don't even know where to begin do research. Books, websites like mine, even videos. Welcome to the wonderful world of kinks and fetishes!

Remember practice makes perfect. Vanilla ice cream may be smooth but even vanilla there's bumps on the rocky road. Don't be put off if you fumble or make mistakes.

Put the bond into bondage. You're doing this to satisfy each other as well as yourselves. Have fun with it and grow together like the beautiful kinky flowers you are!